This happened with a few people we knew, especially after Covid: If your partner is looking after you the same way she would a child, you don't just lose the modifier (fuckable), you lose the nominative (husband).
Dude, this is a great article. My wife introduced me to the term 'choreplay' recently and I found it hilarious. She's pregnant at the moment, so I've been doing all the chores—with a smile on my face—for ages... cleaning the shower is still 100x easier than carry a baby (let alone two of 'em at the same time!)
Loved this: "Making sure you are taking care of your own shit will save you from one of the biggest turn-offs wives experience."
Thanks man. Yeah we’re in for a hard first year with the twins, but after that it’s a two for the price of one deal. Couldn’t be happier!
Congratulations on baby number 3! You’re in the depths of it now, not sure how you’re still posting here to be honest. Props to you for juggling it so well.
Couldn’t agree more about that feeling of being dependable. It’s honestly one of the most rewarding feelings I’ve ever had. My wife and I both attribute our marriage to most all the good in our lives, so putting back into it is a no-brainer.
The touching thing and not expecting sex is like the marshmallow/delayed gratification experiment: when you're OK not having sex, she'll be more eager to shag more often later because she feels safer.
Yeah it's a lot of baseline maintenance to even get your wife thinking about sex especially after kids. But I guess it's what is required to have a thriving and growing family. I call the concept of wife viewing the husband as a dependent as "getting son-zoned". Planning on that being a future article.
This happened with a few people we knew, especially after Covid: If your partner is looking after you the same way she would a child, you don't just lose the modifier (fuckable), you lose the nominative (husband).
Dude, this is a great article. My wife introduced me to the term 'choreplay' recently and I found it hilarious. She's pregnant at the moment, so I've been doing all the chores—with a smile on my face—for ages... cleaning the shower is still 100x easier than carry a baby (let alone two of 'em at the same time!)
Loved this: "Making sure you are taking care of your own shit will save you from one of the biggest turn-offs wives experience."
Thanks man. Yeah we’re in for a hard first year with the twins, but after that it’s a two for the price of one deal. Couldn’t be happier!
Congratulations on baby number 3! You’re in the depths of it now, not sure how you’re still posting here to be honest. Props to you for juggling it so well.
Couldn’t agree more about that feeling of being dependable. It’s honestly one of the most rewarding feelings I’ve ever had. My wife and I both attribute our marriage to most all the good in our lives, so putting back into it is a no-brainer.
Congratas! Twins? Fuckin’ awesome. I both envy the cool parenting experience and don’t envy the amount of sleep you’ll soon be getting.
Just had our third and final kid 1.5 weeks ago so I was in your exact boat.
I don’t know about you, but being the foundation my wife can lean on makes me feel fulfilled, and I know it makes my wife feel deeply cared for.
Win-win.
And good on you for eagerly stepping up. So many guys only do it begrudgingly missing the fact that there is joy to be had in serving the marriage.
What's makes you literally fuckable when you're done having kids: the snip.
Ahh the T-section.
My wife has sung to the roof tops how much of an aphrodisiac that would be.
That's definitely in the cards.
The touching thing and not expecting sex is like the marshmallow/delayed gratification experiment: when you're OK not having sex, she'll be more eager to shag more often later because she feels safer.
Earn your two Marshmallows, not one.
This is such a great description.
I’ve not thought of it that way but that’s so accurate.
Though my wife hates it when I refer to them as her “marsh mellows”.
Yeah it's a lot of baseline maintenance to even get your wife thinking about sex especially after kids. But I guess it's what is required to have a thriving and growing family. I call the concept of wife viewing the husband as a dependent as "getting son-zoned". Planning on that being a future article.
Husband = dependent is the worst. Him asking all the same questions the kids ask me just adds fuel to the irritation.
When is dinner ready?
What are we doing this weekend?
Have you seen my [insert random object he didn't put away]?
Is the laundry done?
What shirt should I wear?
What's the plan to visit my parents?
When every "conversation" is transactional, for weeks on end, he can kiss my libido goodbye.